How Men Hug Other MenPosted: January 17, 2013
Being a man requires that one understand and follow certain rules. The rules are unwritten, barely spoken of, universally recognized and strictly enforced.
Because the guy rules are not written, they are simple and easy to relate. There is one guy rule that is more complex than others. That is because it is not so much a rule, but a set of rules governing hugging other guys.
The rules governing how men hug one another are complex and unforgiving. Failing to comply exposes the violator to scorn on the level he might receive for initiating conversation at the urinal, a major transgression of guy code. In order to make sure any of my brethren who were improperly mentored gain an understanding of the hug rules, I am going to explain them. This should also help my female readers to understand what they see when men have to hug one another.
The Rules Of Engagement
Hugging implies an established level of familiarity. Unless there is a bond of close friendship, a family relationship or a confirmed, shared experience, a man is in a no hug situation. To do otherwise is a major violation of the rules.
Men hug other men using one arm. Two arms create an uncomfortable level of intimacy. One arm makes the point of a hug. The common technique for accomplishing this is the handshake/hug. The handshake/hug takes one hand out of the equation and prevents accidental two arm hug situations.
Two arms are for hugging people who are not men.
A two arm hug exception. Generally it is not acceptable for men to hug with two arms. Exceptions are made for fathers and sons, very close friends and all men who are attending a funeral. If the exception is in play, gentlemen must be in full compliance with all other rules.
Patting the back. Men always pat backs when they hug other guys. This is not optional. Resting a hand on the back of another man is unacceptable.
Make it quick. Get in, get out, move on.
Talk. Men who find themselves in a hugging situation should and will talk during the hug. This is not the place for detailed conversation. A quick phrase – “sorry for your loss,” “great game” or “been a long time” – fulfills the talk requirement and keeps the hug brief. Phrase delivered? Get out, move on.
What Are The Implications For Women?
By following these rules, men manage what can be uncomfortable transactions with their peers. The remarkable thing about the rules is that they do manage effectively, without being actually spoken.
The rules have no effect on our transactions with women, nor do they require women to act similarly odd.Please note that though I am referring to these rules as odd, I have respect for them. I am always in compliance with the rules, always.
Women should feel free to keep the rules in mind in observing men in our natural environment. Please, respect the rules and use the knowledge I’ve passed on for entertainment only.